When you get pregnant, you picture a beautiful, chunky little baby with round, soft cheeks, and a button nose. You picture a curled up little shrimp in a blanket, all pink-faced and ham-fisted. It’s rare that you picture yourself with the baby because if you did, you would see the woman with the hair shoved into a bun on the top of her head and wearing the same yoga pants she wore three days ago. And that woman? That’s not a woman that you can identify with.
No one tells you what it feels like to be a mother. They just tell you that you don’t sleep and it’s hard – but no one tells you that you morph into ‘Mother’, and feeling like the person you were before you got pregnant seems impossible. You’re not that beautiful girl with the perfect hair – you’re ‘Mom’. Except that is just not true, really. It’s your postpartum mind playing tricks on you. Let’s be honest: having a baby? Not easy. Miraculous. Wondrous. Beautiful. But not easy. And yet here you are; a little bruised, perhaps, but you’re here. You’re awake and functioning despite the lack of sleep. You’re breathing and your heart is beating. So why do you have to morph into a person with ratty hair and three-day-old yoga pants?
Becoming a mother doesn’t mean you are no longer a woman. It doesn’t mean that you stop being the beautiful, confident woman you are. You have a baby, but that doesn’t mean that you lose yourself – it means you gain a new badge of honor – a new name. You’re a mother. You brought life into the world. And that means you need to bring life back to yourself. So, lady, it’s time to buck up and follow these tips. You’ve got to remember that you are a whole woman as well as a mother and you need to embrace that!
- Think up your uniform. All mothers have one. For some, it’s jeans and a layered tee, for easy boob access. For others, they shop at www.fillyflair.com/ for cute dresses to go over comfortable leggings. Either way, you need a uniform that makes you feel beautiful and confident.
- Take care of your skin. Motherhood makes you tired and feeding on demand is demanding on your body. So, bring in a nightly skincare routine. Not only will it make you feel better on the inside to be taking care of yourself, but you’ll also feel amazing on the outside when your skin is glowing.
- Create a basket of necessities for an easy grab. This can include dry shampoo to spruce up your hair on the days you don’t get time to, a hairbrush and a packet of face wipes. You need to feel good about yourself, and you can do that every day with an easy grab basket.