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Every phase of our life has its challenges and it is up to us to learn how to cope and strive. Parenting is just another phase of life and it is one of the most beautiful periods. The parenting journey is a long one and it begins with the birth of a child and it goes on and on.
Even when the kids grow up, we still have the role of someone that is to guide them and support them along their life’s journey. At times, this long parenting journey can be hard, challenging and exhausting.
It is okay to admit that running after kids all they and picking up after them can be exhausting. You won’t be labeled as a bad parent if you admit to yourself that you are stressed and feel lost.
The feeling of exhaustion, helplessness, overwhelmedness are all symptoms of parental burnout. It has been reported that between 2% and 12% of parents will probably suffer from burnout.
So, if you are currently juggling between career and parenthood, you must have felt one of the emotions mentioned before. If you are on the brink of another sleepless night or you’ve just dealt with another tantrum, you need to slow down and look into the ways to avoid the effects of parental exhaustion.
Figure out where you could most use help
People tend to think that they can do everything on their own without asking for help. But, parenting is often a rollercoaster of events and emotions and we can only benefit from outside opinion (if you call your mom), help from your husband (dads can do more then we let them) and friends (other mom’s first hand experience is often the best solution and the best support system any parent can get).
So, when that nasty feeling of helplessness or even anger sets in, ask for help and accept it when you most need it.
Set time aside for your needs
Neglecting self-care will slowly and surely lead you onto a path of burnout. Self-care is the new health care prescription and parents must take their dosage. In order to be a loving and calm parent, you need to take care of your own needs. Set aside time to restore your emotional fuel. Reading will ease your mind, a bubble bath will soothe your senses while exercising will burn off all that negative energy.
Even eating a candy bar without sharing it with anyone else can be beneficial for self-care.
Parents are so immersed in their parenting duties that they often forget about their spouses needs. They also limit the time they spend with their friends because they don’t have time for them. That is why it is essential for every parent to engage in mindful moments together with their spouses, family members and friends.
These mindful moments will deepen their bond and lead to the feeling of happiness while lessening the effects of daily stress. By nurturing relationships with your spouse and friends, every parent will also give a valuable lesson to their children – to make time for people that matter the most.
Take a break
Every parent needs to take a break in general. At least once a year, take a break from being a parent. You can go on a mumcation or a dadcation or a parent-only vacation. Other family members can be in charge of the kids and everyone will benefit from this short “break”.
There are also many other ways primarily moms can take a break. Let’s talk about cooking. Moms are often so concentrated on making meals for everyone that they forget about what they would like to eat for once. It is an exhausting and repetitive chore that can also be the cause of negative emotions. Dads can take over the kitchen once or twice a week and surprise the entire family with their culinary expertise.
The entire family can also benefit from healthy meal delivery services offered by My Muscle Chef once in a while. Having healthy meals delivered to your doorstep will save valuable time you can spend on family activities instead. The family meal serves as a time for light banter, teachable moments and talking about things that happened that day.
That is why it does not have to be just mom’s job. Cooking and any other chores can be delegated to every family member so that the entire family can take an active role in their household.
Focus on the positive
You don’t have to stress out every time your child breaks a rule or forgets their homework or a chore. Yes, we do need to take an active role in children’s upbringing and it is up to us to teach them proper responsibilities, manners and values.
However, our expectations sometimes lead to disappointment and every parenting technique won’t work all the time. We can expect certain behaviors of our children to change immediately, while others will require more time.
In order to focus on the positive, keep reminding yourself of your kids accomplishments and the areas they excel at. Praising your kids for the good job they are doing as it will empower them to reach those other milestones you expect them to.
Preserve your self-identity outside of parenting role
Being a parent is a never-ending role but as your kids grow up, they will become independent and parents won’t be as needed as they were while the kids were young. That is why parents have to maintain their identities outside of parenting roles.
Neglecting your hobbies leads to parental burnout as you stop doing the things you are passionate about. So, find time for hobbies that drive you and keep you sane because once your kids grow up, you will have your own purpose and sense of accomplishment intact.
Having said all this, take a moment to assess your current emotions. If you do everything else besides the things we’ve mentioned here, you are definitely and utterly immersed in your parenting role. It is important to take one step back and do everything we can to deal with the other side of emotions caused by parenting.
Avoiding burnout is important for our health, but most importantly our kids need a happy and healthy parent, so let’s do it for their sake.